We found out in the last few days that dad's cancer (stage 3 mantle cell lymphoma) has now spread to pre-cancer cells in his lungs and full blown colon cancer. So, he's now stage 4. He also needs his lungs drained almost every day and had fluid surrounding his heart and in his abdomen. We knew his time was getting short, but we didn't know that the doctors would only give him a week or two left. That has blind-sided everyone.
So, I'm still trying to figure out what exactly will happen with me going to CA plans, but Heidi is already there (took a flight this afternoon) and Aubrey will be leaving in a few days.
We've had plans for Easter in SLC but we're going to re-configure that and hit CA too. It might even be just me going to CA while Ryan has the girls in SLC. Who knows. I'm too tired to think, or make any more decisions.
Dad and the rest of us are all in pretty good spirits. We knew this would come eventually, but it was always "eventually" and never "now"...
My contacts are blurry from crying. I've called all my "Uncles" (Dad's good friends that we just call uncles) and let them know what's up. Dad will stay with Grandma in Sonora, CA until he's in too poor of health and needs to be maintained at the hospital there. They will keep him 'comfortable' until he passes.
Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers. I do appreciate it. Its hard to maintain the tough Rachel exterior when so many people are sending kind words my way. It will be a hell of a couple of weeks for us.
Rachel I know this has been hard on and will seem like it is a major kick. We had to deal with it with Pat. You and your family are in my prayers. Travel safe and my opinion get to your dad and spend every moment you can with him. It was the best thing I did with Pat.
ReplyDeleteRachel, I am so sorry. I have been thinking of you everyday. I hope that you can spend all your time with him while he is here. I love you and pray for your family.
ReplyDeleteIt's always rough loosing a loved one. If you ever need to talk you know I am here. Hang in there... and don't worry about keeping up a "Tough Rachie" ... we all understand!
ReplyDeleteVery sorry to hear about your Dad. Losing someone is always hard no matter how long you think you have to plan for it. My prayers are with you and your family
ReplyDeleteRachie I'm sorry to hear the time was even shorter than you thought! Let me know if you guys need food, a twin-sitter, anything...
ReplyDeleteI was very sorry to hear the news, my Dad will be sad to lose a best friend. I am just thankful that we got so many years to get to know and love your dad, he is a great man and will be sorely missed. Our thoughts are with your family.
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